Last Updated On December 3, 2017

 

baby its cold outside

 

 

December 1, 2017

Hello my little jingle fairy of loveliness! Welcome to DAY ONE!

Lets start with this:

There’s anticipation and there’s expectation and they are not the same thing.

Anticipation is fore-knowledge that is built on past experience. Anticipation can be useful, although limited. Because we are not all-seeing and things are constantly changing (you included) so we can’t predict or prepare perfectly for an unknown future.

And thats ok, because we are human and stuff.

However anticipation can serve us when it is received in a spirit of equanimity and action. So yeah, there’s nothing wrong with shoring up our resources for the month ahead. Whatever this means to us individually whether its making sure the gym membership is paid up or checking on the re-fills available for our medications or booking the babysitter ahead – it can’t hurt, we aren’t going to jinx anything by doing stuff we should probably already be doing to take care of ourselves.

The idea is to not get taken off-guard and let down year after year ending up in a state of paralysis as things take a familiar turn. One would think since this happens to us every year to some degree that we would not be surprised by it, and yet there must be some little granule of optimism within us because often it takes us a bit to figure out whats happening. Lets transform our anxious, overactive imaginations into the best mother we ever had and come to some level of acceptance for what is.

Expectation, on the other hand, is about conjuring and basically creating the negative eventualities that we fear. And please honey, don’t argue that you are the hapless victim of Krampus. We are all capable of this kind of black magic. Have you started speaking in ABSOLUTES yet? I am ALWAYS like this…The holidays are ALWAYS like that…My kids are ALWAYS a pain in the ass ALL month…

If you take one moment to deconstruct these statements, you will probably find that:

SOMETIMES I am sad. SOMETIMES I am overwhelmed. SOMETIMES I have a hard time enjoying the holidays because SOME PARTS MIGHT suck. MAYBE, once again, I will do the best I can. Or not. And thats NOT the end of the world.

Lets do ourselves a solid and spare ourselves the drama of expectation.

The fun part:

On this, the first night of advent, I invite you to surprise yourself. Break out of your bonds of thinking you know your limits and your usual. Step off the well worn path and do something you almost never do. Wear something you don’t usually wear. See a movie you would never usually consider. Surprise yourself and everyone else.

The future is unwritten and you are a gorgeous ever-changing, ever-evolving creature that is absolutely capable of defying expectations- yours or anyone else’s.  So. Eat dinner in front of the TV, wear hot pink, go see a buddy comedy, run around the block instead of walk…whatever is a departure for you personally and even though you feel the urge to fold into yourself in protection- resist. Not just yet. Give yourself this experiment.

Do something beyond expectation, prove it can happen, and then tell expectation to fuck itself.

Have a Happy(ish) Holiday! xoxoxoxox

 

Last Updated On December 3, 2017

 

baby its cold outside

 

December 1, 2017

Hello my little jingle fairy of loveliness! Welcome to DAY ONE!

Lets start with this:

There’s anticipation and there’s expectation and they are not the same thing.

Anticipation is fore-knowledge that is built on past experience. Anticipation can be useful, although limited. Because we are not all-seeing and things are constantly changing (you included) so we can’t predict or prepare perfectly for an unknown future.

And thats ok, because we are human and stuff.

However anticipation can serve us when it is received in a spirit of equanimity and action. So yeah, there’s nothing wrong with shoring up our resources for the month ahead. Whatever this means to us individually whether its making sure the gym membership is paid up or checking on the re-fills available for our medications or booking the babysitter ahead – it can’t hurt, we aren’t going to jinx anything by doing stuff we should probably already be doing to take care of ourselves.

The idea is to not get taken off-guard and let down year after year ending up in a state of paralysis as things take a familiar turn. One would think since this happens to us every year to some degree that we would not be surprised by it, and yet there must be some little granule of optimism within us because often it takes us a bit to figure out whats happening. Lets transform our anxious, overactive imaginations into the best mother we ever had and come to some level of acceptance for what is.

Expectation, on the other hand, is about conjuring and basically creating the negative eventualities that we fear. And please honey, don’t argue that you are the hapless victim of Krampus. We are all capable of this kind of black magic. Have you started speaking in ABSOLUTES yet? I am ALWAYS like this…The holidays are ALWAYS like that…My kids are ALWAYS a pain in the ass ALL month…

If you take one moment to deconstruct these statements, you will probably find that:

SOMETIMES I am sad. SOMETIMES I am overwhelmed. SOMETIMES I have a hard time enjoying the holidays because SOME PARTS MIGHT suck. MAYBE, once again, I will do the best I can. Or not. And thats NOT the end of the world.

Lets do ourselves a solid and spare ourselves the drama of expectation.

The fun part:

On this, the first night of advent, I invite you to surprise yourself. Break out of your bonds of thinking you know your limits and your usual. Step off the well worn path and do something you almost never do. Wear something you don’t usually wear. See a movie you would never usually consider. Surprise yourself and everyone else.

The future is unwritten and you are a gorgeous ever-changing, ever-evolving creature that is absolutely capable of defying expectations- yours or anyone else’s.  So. Eat dinner in front of the TV, wear hot pink, go see a buddy comedy, run around the block instead of walk…whatever is a departure for you personally and even though you feel the urge to fold into yourself in protection- resist. Not just yet. Give yourself this experiment.

Do something beyond expectation, prove it can happen, and then tell expectation to fuck itself.

Have a Happy(ish) Holiday! xoxoxoxox

Last Updated On December 3, 2017

baby its cold outside

December 1, 2017

Hello my little jingle fairy of loveliness! Welcome to DAY ONE!

Lets start with this:

There’s anticipation and there’s expectation and they are not the same thing.

Anticipation is fore-knowledge that is built on past experience. Anticipation can be useful, although limited. Because we are not all-seeing and things are constantly changing (you included) so we can’t predict or prepare perfectly for an unknown future.

And thats ok, because we are human and stuff.

However anticipation can serve us when it is received in a spirit of equanimity and action. So yeah, there’s nothing wrong with shoring up our resources for the month ahead. Whatever this means to us individually whether its making sure the gym membership is paid up or checking on the re-fills available for our medications or booking the babysitter ahead – it can’t hurt, we aren’t going to jinx anything by doing stuff we should probably already be doing to take care of ourselves.

The idea is to not get taken off-guard and let down year after year ending up in a state of paralysis as things take a familiar turn. One would think since this happens to us every year to some degree that we would not be surprised by it, and yet there must be some little granule of optimism within us because often it takes us a bit to figure out whats happening. Lets transform our anxious, overactive imaginations into the best mother we ever had and come to some level of acceptance for what is.

Expectation, on the other hand, is about conjuring and basically creating the negative eventualities that we fear. And please honey, don’t argue that you are the hapless victim of Krampus. We are all capable of this kind of black magic. Have you started speaking in ABSOLUTES yet? I am ALWAYS like this…The holidays are ALWAYS like that…My kids are ALWAYS a pain in the ass ALL month…

If you take one moment to deconstruct these statements, you will probably find that:

SOMETIMES I am sad. SOMETIMES I am overwhelmed. SOMETIMES I have a hard time enjoying the holidays because SOME PARTS MIGHT suck. MAYBE, once again, I will do the best I can. Or not. And thats NOT the end of the world.

Lets do ourselves a solid and spare ourselves the drama of expectation.

The fun part:

On this, the first night of advent, I invite you to surprise yourself. Break out of your bonds of thinking you know your limits and your usual. Step off the well worn path and do something you almost never do. Wear something you don’t usually wear. See a movie you would never usually consider. Surprise yourself and everyone else.

The future is unwritten and you are a gorgeous ever-changing, ever-evolving creature that is absolutely capable of defying expectations- yours or anyone else’s.  So. Eat dinner in front of the TV, wear hot pink, go see a buddy comedy, run around the block instead of walk…whatever is a departure for you personally and even though you feel the urge to fold into yourself in protection- resist. Not just yet. Give yourself this experiment.

Do something beyond expectation, prove it can happen, and then tell expectation to fuck itself.

Have a Happy(ish) Holiday! xoxoxoxox