Last Updated On December 8, 2017

 

hurry down the chimney tonight

 

 

December 6, 2017

Hello you sexy santa slayers, welcome to Day Six.

Holiday traditions, whatever they happen to be, can be problematic for a variety of reasons. What happens to tradition when family members die, or relocate, or grow up? What if some people remain committed to holiday traditions while others are less interested? What if the maintenance of holiday traditions rests with one person (a probably tired and overwhelmed person)? Sometimes traditions lose relevance over time- as elders pass away and we get more remote from our cultures of origin as well as from our extended families. Which ones stick? How hard do you fight to keep them going?

Its also a question of resources- time and money. Is upholding holiday traditions a good investment? What if this year we can’t afford what we did last year and the year before? Where do we cut corners? And what if we just aren’t feeling it?

Whoa. I just had this heretical thought… What if we only engaged in holiday traditions that we felt heart led in initiating and participating in? And anything else could be somebody else’s thing if they so chose. Wha? Is this even allowed? And then all the other stuff, all the other holiday tradition OPTIONS may just not happen and..would that be the end of the world? What would the actual repercussions be?

We are taught that holiday traditions  (Note: workload mostly centered on women) are what cements families, gives us meaning and solidarity. Is this true? Is it really all about events, activities, foods, and things? Or is it more about time and connections and memories with or without specific traditions attached?

Are some holiday traditions more authentic than others? Are some entrenched by the patriarchy and/or consumerist culture? Is it ok or perhaps even preferable to create our own traditions- not only as a reaction to the complexity of retaining long standing family/cultural traditions in modern families but as a conscious choice. Is it important to prioritize our commitments in general and to traditions in particular and update on a yearly basis? Maybe a reassessment and reconceptualization is in order. Maybe last year was the year of the witty Christmas cards and this is the year of the cookie.  Why not? Every year does not have to out-do the last. That is a perversion of what this time of year is supposed to be all about. And I think this push for more, for better, is what puts a lot of us in the doldrums.

Follow your hearts. Be a leader. Be a lover. But please, don’t strain yourself for all the wrong reasons, you don’t have to hold the enthusiasm and to-do list of countless generations. On this, the sixth day of advent, I invite you to commit to one holiday tradition this year of your own creation- it might become yearly or not and thats ok.

 

Last Updated On December 8, 2017

 

hurry down the chimney tonight

 

December 6, 2017

Hello you sexy santa slayers, welcome to Day Six.

Holiday traditions, whatever they happen to be, can be problematic for a variety of reasons. What happens to tradition when family members die, or relocate, or grow up? What if some people remain committed to holiday traditions while others are less interested? What if the maintenance of holiday traditions rests with one person (a probably tired and overwhelmed person)? Sometimes traditions lose relevance over time- as elders pass away and we get more remote from our cultures of origin as well as from our extended families. Which ones stick? How hard do you fight to keep them going?

Its also a question of resources- time and money. Is upholding holiday traditions a good investment? What if this year we can’t afford what we did last year and the year before? Where do we cut corners? And what if we just aren’t feeling it?

Whoa. I just had this heretical thought… What if we only engaged in holiday traditions that we felt heart led in initiating and participating in? And anything else could be somebody else’s thing if they so chose. Wha? Is this even allowed? And then all the other stuff, all the other holiday tradition OPTIONS may just not happen and..would that be the end of the world? What would the actual repercussions be?

We are taught that holiday traditions  (Note: workload mostly centered on women) are what cements families, gives us meaning and solidarity. Is this true? Is it really all about events, activities, foods, and things? Or is it more about time and connections and memories with or without specific traditions attached?

Are some holiday traditions more authentic than others? Are some entrenched by the patriarchy and/or consumerist culture? Is it ok or perhaps even preferable to create our own traditions- not only as a reaction to the complexity of retaining long standing family/cultural traditions in modern families but as a conscious choice. Is it important to prioritize our commitments in general and to traditions in particular and update on a yearly basis? Maybe a reassessment and reconceptualization is in order. Maybe last year was the year of the witty Christmas cards and this is the year of the cookie.  Why not? Every year does not have to out-do the last. That is a perversion of what this time of year is supposed to be all about. And I think this push for more, for better, is what puts a lot of us in the doldrums.

Follow your hearts. Be a leader. Be a lover. But please, don’t strain yourself for all the wrong reasons, you don’t have to hold the enthusiasm and to-do list of countless generations. On this, the sixth day of advent, I invite you to commit to one holiday tradition this year of your own creation- it might become yearly or not and thats ok.

Last Updated On December 8, 2017

hurry down the chimney tonight

December 6, 2017

Hello you sexy santa slayers, welcome to Day Six.

Holiday traditions, whatever they happen to be, can be problematic for a variety of reasons. What happens to tradition when family members die, or relocate, or grow up? What if some people remain committed to holiday traditions while others are less interested? What if the maintenance of holiday traditions rests with one person (a probably tired and overwhelmed person)? Sometimes traditions lose relevance over time- as elders pass away and we get more remote from our cultures of origin as well as from our extended families. Which ones stick? How hard do you fight to keep them going?

Its also a question of resources- time and money. Is upholding holiday traditions a good investment? What if this year we can’t afford what we did last year and the year before? Where do we cut corners? And what if we just aren’t feeling it?

Whoa. I just had this heretical thought… What if we only engaged in holiday traditions that we felt heart led in initiating and participating in? And anything else could be somebody else’s thing if they so chose. Wha? Is this even allowed? And then all the other stuff, all the other holiday tradition OPTIONS may just not happen and..would that be the end of the world? What would the actual repercussions be?

We are taught that holiday traditions  (Note: workload mostly centered on women) are what cements families, gives us meaning and solidarity. Is this true? Is it really all about events, activities, foods, and things? Or is it more about time and connections and memories with or without specific traditions attached?

Are some holiday traditions more authentic than others? Are some entrenched by the patriarchy and/or consumerist culture? Is it ok or perhaps even preferable to create our own traditions- not only as a reaction to the complexity of retaining long standing family/cultural traditions in modern families but as a conscious choice. Is it important to prioritize our commitments in general and to traditions in particular and update on a yearly basis? Maybe a reassessment and reconceptualization is in order. Maybe last year was the year of the witty Christmas cards and this is the year of the cookie.  Why not? Every year does not have to out-do the last. That is a perversion of what this time of year is supposed to be all about. And I think this push for more, for better, is what puts a lot of us in the doldrums.

Follow your hearts. Be a leader. Be a lover. But please, don’t strain yourself for all the wrong reasons, you don’t have to hold the enthusiasm and to-do list of countless generations. On this, the sixth day of advent, I invite you to commit to one holiday tradition this year of your own creation- it might become yearly or not and thats ok.