Last Updated On November 6, 2021

 

 

 

This piece is part of my Garden of Delights series, see The Garden of Delights 30 Day Writing Challenge if you would like to participate all through the month of November.

I first encountered Ben in the library of course- showing off his newly self-knitted scarf. Jovial, smart, and fresh- at once taking in everything and everyone while also leaning in conspiratorially making a keen and often  hilarious observation.

Ben ended up returning every Thursday night for our STEAM program for kids. My focus was squarely on having as much fun as possible without destroying the library. While Ben’s was…well for one, he knew every single person’s name. I at first thought it was amusing, like a parlour trick or a side effect of his occupation. But I learned that it was because he somehow managed to get to know every person in attendance, making them feel included and valued. His focus and attention was so much more evolved than my broad-stroke, crowd control tactics. When faced with conflict, instead of crossed arms and pronouncements, he offered open-arms and an inquisitive mind, drilling deeper for understanding and connection. He made that program worth doing and he taught me so much.

Whether it was trading memes over text, volunteering at the food pantry, random “Ben sightings” reported at Dunkin Donuts from my kid- I always want more of Ben. In fact I desperately started holding books in his name at the library so he would be forced to come in and pick them up which admittedly is probably a little creepy. But totally worth it.

Having learned that Hierold worked at IC like my husband, I hatched grand plans of socializing that were never realized. I count this among one of my Covid losses. I am jealous of Minneapolis. But also (begrudgingly) happy for them. They have no idea what kind of amazing power couple they are about to receive.

Karel Titus and I coined the term Lodi Magic. It has to do with chance encounters, things just working out, and unanticipated beauty…I consider Ben an integral part of this magical realm no matter where he is doing his good works.

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Last Updated On November 6, 2021

 

 

This piece is part of my Garden of Delights series, see The Garden of Delights 30 Day Writing Challenge if you would like to participate all through the month of November.

I first encountered Ben in the library of course- showing off his newly self-knitted scarf. Jovial, smart, and fresh- at once taking in everything and everyone while also leaning in conspiratorially making a keen and often  hilarious observation.

Ben ended up returning every Thursday night for our STEAM program for kids. My focus was squarely on having as much fun as possible without destroying the library. While Ben’s was…well for one, he knew every single person’s name. I at first thought it was amusing, like a parlour trick or a side effect of his occupation. But I learned that it was because he somehow managed to get to know every person in attendance, making them feel included and valued. His focus and attention was so much more evolved than my broad-stroke, crowd control tactics. When faced with conflict, instead of crossed arms and pronouncements, he offered open-arms and an inquisitive mind, drilling deeper for understanding and connection. He made that program worth doing and he taught me so much.

Whether it was trading memes over text, volunteering at the food pantry, random “Ben sightings” reported at Dunkin Donuts from my kid- I always want more of Ben. In fact I desperately started holding books in his name at the library so he would be forced to come in and pick them up which admittedly is probably a little creepy. But totally worth it.

Having learned that Hierold worked at IC like my husband, I hatched grand plans of socializing that were never realized. I count this among one of my Covid losses. I am jealous of Minneapolis. But also (begrudgingly) happy for them. They have no idea what kind of amazing power couple they are about to receive.

Karel Titus and I coined the term Lodi Magic. It has to do with chance encounters, things just working out, and unanticipated beauty…I consider Ben an integral part of this magical realm no matter where he is doing his good works.

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Last Updated On November 6, 2021

This piece is part of my Garden of Delights series, see The Garden of Delights 30 Day Writing Challenge if you would like to participate all through the month of November.

I first encountered Ben in the library of course- showing off his newly self-knitted scarf. Jovial, smart, and fresh- at once taking in everything and everyone while also leaning in conspiratorially making a keen and often  hilarious observation.

Ben ended up returning every Thursday night for our STEAM program for kids. My focus was squarely on having as much fun as possible without destroying the library. While Ben’s was…well for one, he knew every single person’s name. I at first thought it was amusing, like a parlour trick or a side effect of his occupation. But I learned that it was because he somehow managed to get to know every person in attendance, making them feel included and valued. His focus and attention was so much more evolved than my broad-stroke, crowd control tactics. When faced with conflict, instead of crossed arms and pronouncements, he offered open-arms and an inquisitive mind, drilling deeper for understanding and connection. He made that program worth doing and he taught me so much.

Whether it was trading memes over text, volunteering at the food pantry, random “Ben sightings” reported at Dunkin Donuts from my kid- I always want more of Ben. In fact I desperately started holding books in his name at the library so he would be forced to come in and pick them up which admittedly is probably a little creepy. But totally worth it.

Having learned that Hierold worked at IC like my husband, I hatched grand plans of socializing that were never realized. I count this among one of my Covid losses. I am jealous of Minneapolis. But also (begrudgingly) happy for them. They have no idea what kind of amazing power couple they are about to receive.

Karel Titus and I coined the term Lodi Magic. It has to do with chance encounters, things just working out, and unanticipated beauty…I consider Ben an integral part of this magical realm no matter where he is doing his good works.

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